Annette Frier gives rare insight into her marriage

As an actress, Annette Frier is very busy. At home, her husband has her back. The 48-year-old cannot understand why this is still not normal for many.

Professionally, things are going well for Annette Frier. As “Ella Schön” she can currently be seen in the last season of the ZDF series of the same name. She will also play the leading role in the film “Leben über Kreuz”. And the actress has also found happiness in her private life. Frier has been married to screenwriter Johannes Wunsch for 20 years and has two children with him.

She can’t do anything with traditional role models in her marriage, as she revealed in an interview with the magazine “Bunte”. After the birth of her now 14-year-old twins, she quickly returned to work, Frier recalls. “I actually got back to work quickly, my husband was able to work from home as a screenwriter and was always responsible for the two of them,” she says.

Superfluous conversations

At first she had to laugh when she was asked if her husband would help with the children. “Then my answer was: ‘Yes. I’ll help my husband with the children,'” says Frier. She has noticed the fixed patterns in which society is still stuck and advocates saying goodbye to them.

The actress also finds the discussion about what is male or female superfluous. “We all have both parts in us. My goodness, there are unnecessary conversations,” she says. This attitude was already demonstrated to her in her parents’ house, where there were no classic role models either. “It’s all a matter of course for us. I can obviously be very grateful for that,” said Frier.

Trust the kids

When it comes to raising her own children, the actress is now letting things go a little looser. At first she wanted to do everything right and be a good role model. But then she realized that it couldn’t be done. “Because I’m me, it’s never going to be perfect,” she says. “Nevertheless, of course you want to try, not only for your children, but also for yourself,” Frier continues.

It is more important to her to have good contact with the children and to give them the feeling that they can turn to their parents for anything. “They should feel that we are always the point of contact for them – no matter what happens,” says the 48-year-old. Unconditional love also means trusting the children. During puberty, they would move further away from their parents. “We used to be the world for them, now we’re getting to know new worlds through them,” says Frier.